For the longest time I never even knew what an abortion was. And nobody really needs to know what it is and neither should I, but now I do and now it is a key social issue that even guides many political battles. But to me abortion and the entire pro-choice and pro-life movements were as unknown as melanoma, tuberculosis, and many other mysteries of our universe. Why do I have to know every single thing out there? I do not and neither do you, but some out there have this belief that the less you know the less you are worth their attention so people die to learn as much as possible and that's not right bro. We should focus on what we care to know, not what someone out there is pushing us to experience. That's what mafia is all about - pushy behaviours. Mature people aren't pushy, they aren't that insecure. And that's precisely what the entire pro-life and pro-choice movements are like, they're pushy and shameful. Allow me to explain.
I know not what you all need to be happy. But I know what I need. And they're simple things that even without meeting me you can understand. I need food, water, shelter, and love. Nothing else. I exist in a vacuum when compared to the rest of you and your planets full of things. I am like a piece of cosmic dust floating about. It's difficult to explain. Just trust me, I am perfectly content and happy even just sitting on a bench at Nathan Phillip's Square all by myself just watching the wind caressing the pooled Toronto reflection. I don't need much more than that, but the rest of you need way more to be even moderately happy, and that's okay. Maybe someone made you all feel bad with the phrase "less is more", but that's not my philosophy. I am simply very easily amused, it's how I am. We're not all one, we're not all the same, and we're definitely made equal. For crying out loud we're not even all equal under the law, not even Canada's legal structure treats us all as equals. So from this perspective is that I write these thoughts. This is why "my body, my choice" is important. Because we're not all equal, it's not our body, it's not their body, it's not one body. It's "my" body. The unique thing that only I have, only you have. It's not guided by governmental rules, not by military might, not by bullies, pushy people nor by mafias. It's mine. Yours is yours. Simple concept, right?
But there are those with power whom wish to tell you what you may do with your body, your mind, and even might get to a point where what you dream may become a punishable offense. There are religions in the world that state a dream is a foretelling of events and so if you dream the wrong things you may be responsible for what occurs in the future. There are people who believe they do not need to respect you as a person and yet have the right to tell you how to play sports, how to love, how to live. This is why "my body my choice" is important. But from a very unexpected perspective as I'll explain. It relates to philosophy in a key regard. It's not just your body that dictates your choice, it's also your mind. It's your consciousness. It's your decision making and analytical powers that are yours. It's also your right to bend over and give money to a homeless dude. Everything you do is your decision, but also all the times you did not help others is your doing, too. If you ever chose to walk past someone in need, that is you causing pain in the world with your body because it was your choice. You chose not to reach in that pocket and not help. Nobody forced your hand to buy fries instead of helping a hungry man did they? It wasn't some evil patriarchy that caused you to be that cruel ladies. It wasn't some religious structure that made potholes of my city, Toronto, this large and not repaired was it? It was all of your collective thoughts and ideas. The bubble you all live in is perhaps the key here. The entire philosophy of "my body my choice" extends way beyond abortion and is a key component of why our world is slowly destroying itself. The violence in Gaza? Result of people who are using their bodies to exercise their choices, too. Every pub fight? Also caused by men whom chose to use their bodies the exact way that they wanted to, to throw punches and push each other around. The excuse of being intoxicated fades when you realize no gun was put to their head when they chose with their mind to enter the pub and consume that much alcohol. So my body my choice extends to my thoughts my actions. Many blame alcoholics for violence, I blame shopaholics for poverty and hunger. Everyone has their addictions, do they not? Except there's far less violence in Toronto than poverty and hunger. And when you look at it from that perspective, the male-caused violence is far less of a problem than the female-caused shopping, eh ladies? Funny as it seems, and yet statistics are on track here.
But here is the entire point of this argument's purpose. While a woman should always have the absolute right to abort a fetus, we don't yet agree at what point. However, there is a key component of your entire "choice" society that is missing. And that's equal respect of all of its members. The male perspective is a bit different. We responsible men look at it from a much further point in life. We don't even care about abortion as for the most part it's not even required if one is a normal and responsible adult (or teen). It's why I never even knew about it as I was raised to think ahead, kinda the way one plays chess, y'know? You don't play e3 without knowing what the next five moves are. Nor does one play an opener to c3 with a knight without understanding why it's not an ideal move and what the next several moves usually are. But most of this North American culture seems to behave just this way. Which is why abortion is such a hot topic for you all. In chess it would be "can I take this move back, I made a mistake". Rarely do we do that in chess and in life it simply isn't really possible. Abortion is a huge drain on resources, it has its risks, hazards and an entire industry is required, as well as schooling and supporting personnel. Isn't it simpler to know the five moves ahead before making a choice to go to bed? This is why us men believe in a simpler concept: "my semen, my wish." Essentially it's real simple. Unless I discussed with a woman that I want a child with her specifically then I am not choosing to have a child with her and therefore she cannot have a child with me if its to be considered free will and consent on both of our parts. What I'm saying is, unless the couple discussed having a child, by default the child is not of free will nor of consent. While the law does not respect this, that's irrelevant, for the law does not even treat black and white people fairly in Toronto let alone anywhere else, so the legal structure of Canada doesn't concern me. This is basic human rights I am discussing here, and whether any nation let alone Canada respects them is of little interest to me. Human rights say unless you as an individual agreed to something it was forced upon you and therefore you are not responsible for it. If someone took money from your wallet without your permission it is theft. If a woman did not discuss having a child with me specifically and I did not agree and she chose to bring it to life without my permission therefore, then that is a form of theft and not anything of my own direct choosing. But if I as a man agreed, that means I gave permission for her to make the secondary choice. And that is where "my body my choice" comes into play only and not before. The abortion can be seen as a safety of sorts. If the couple does not choose to have a child or the woman does not, then abortion comes into play. But first and foremost the man must decide on his own behalf. Without both of these factors considered, the child has not been brought into the world with planning, consent, nor with free will of both individuals.
The law may respect biological origins as making one a father or a mother, but that has nothing to do with if one is a father or a mother of said child. It makes them merely biological contributors of genetic matter. A father is someone who chose to have a child before sexual relations. And a mother is one who did not abort. And they're both parents if they chose and consented. All else fades when it is looked from this perspective. And here is why. Pregnancy takes nine months. It is obvious when a woman is pregnant and can not be hidden. But it is not obvious if a man willingly gave his semen to the woman. And something that tiny, despite all of our bravado, can easily be stolen, exported, transported, and artificially inseminated into numerous hosts. But when a child is in the womb for nine months, there aren't many ways of hiding that aspect, it's almost a hostage situation. So if you love sex, go and have as much as you want to, but always discuss the child aspect if you wish to have a child. As far as I'm concerned, if it wasn't specifically and explicitly discussed then it wasn't a choice of free-will nor was the child consented to by both parties. A child is a far more important of an agreement than any business dealing, or any mortgage contract, and people make those decisions with very obvious language. One does not imply they will buy a house without at least a question of "Do you want this house, honey?". Similarly one can not imply that a child was what a man or a woman wanted just because someone got pregnant, or just because they had sex. This concept seems difficult for even the legal system to grasp as it still believes if a woman brings a child to life that the man is responsible for financially supporting it and this is utter non-sense and is illegal as it violates basic human rights. It would be as if I bought a house merely by roaming through it during an open house event. You were in all the rooms and even the backyard and said it was beautiful, therefore you bought it! Sorry folks, it doesn't work that way. Just because I practice soccer all day it doesn't mean I want to be a superstar. So while I may be financially responsible for hundreds of children under various nation's legal systems in this world, I have yet to consent to bringing one child into this world as I have never discussed with a single woman this issue. Therefore, if any child of "mine" has my genetics it was a violation of my rights. Furthermore if the legal system financially ties a man to a child it can be seen as religious doctrine or oppression imposed upon even those choosing other beliefs simply because one is not contractually obligated to a thing if one did not consent to a thing. Any judge must ask the male if they specifically consented to having a child before sex and if not that man can not be held financially liable or any other way for the child whatsoever, especially not in places where abortion is legal and safe and where even morning after pills exist. In fact if a man did not consent before engaging in coitus and the woman chose to bring the child into the world then she is fully responsible and in fact in a way she committed a crime. Sorry ladies but that's the truth. An unplanned thing may be good at times but is never a planned consented-to thing. If I throw a baseball and accidentally smash a window I clearely did not mean to buy a window, did I? This is an analogy about free-will choices and not responsibility for clearly paying for the window is my responsibility. And in that analogy the woman's choice to abort is a hand of God from above choosing whether to stop time and catch the ball or not. Man may throw a bad curve ball, but the woman can prevent the smashed window ultimately. It's a funny analogy, I know. Either way the man must choose to throw the ball and the woman must choose to stop it from hitting the window. Now one might say don't play baseball then son! Nah, play baseball away from windows, bro. In legal verbage, contracts made under duress are null and void folks, always. Lack of consent is duress; consent can not be implied. This is clear even in backwards legal structures as it is a human right. My body my choice, meet "my semen my wish". And wishes can only be known if they are communicated Every culture knows this from fables. And before you laugh and dismiss this as silly just think about the following. Does the legal system matter at all when you're entering somebody else's house, or is it far more important if you were invited? One is a legal impetus, the other is basic and common human respect that the law tries to codify in its pages and often times fails. We all know what respect is and do not need a gavel to tell us. If you do not and require bullet points then this post won't help you very much.
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